Posted July 25, 2011on:
But my children, and other adults I know, did. I was “unavailable” because I could not be reached at all times of the day and night. Clearly, this won’t do.
Parents are apparently supposed to be “available” to their children – no matter how old they are –every day, at any given time. The same holds true for many other adults in our lives. I know that cell phones and other mobile communication devices are a fact of life and invaluable for many businesses. I know that many people no longer have a land line, but…
This is a lot of pressure.
If you feel like a yo-yo sometimes because you are pulled back and forth due to constant messages and information you have to attend to, this list is for you.
If you don’t know whether to answer a text, a ringing phone or an email, this list is for you.
If you find yourself checking your purse or pocket no matter whose phone is ringing in a crowd, please keep reading.
A list to keep children focused on real life communication that doesn’t include a phone an iPad or anything else that is hand held:
Talk to your children face to face. While you are talking look them straight in the eye, smile, hold their hand, touch their shoulders, nod your head and lean in to listen very carefully to what they say back to you. Now it is your turn to talk again, then listen, then talk…
When you are with your children – be stingy. Play, sing, sit quietly, lie on the couch, cook spaghetti, garden, pick out fruit at the grocery store, ride in the car, watch their soccer game, or visit a friend. But be selfish about it. Don’t share yourself with anything or anyone else but your child.
Insist that your children talk with you instead of always texting, calling or emailing. Even very young children have access to personal hand held devices and think that this is the way to communicate with their parents. It’s not. This is in addition to talking directly and personally, not a replacement.
Take a break from whatever you have that allows you to be “available” 24/7. Set a goal for yourself to limit cell phones (or whatever you carry constantly), computers and any other communication screen. This will be a very important model for your children.
I know we live in a very hectic, fast and quickly changing world. But a week without a cell phone was great. And guess what—the world survived!
“Women use cell phones more than men.”
-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director