Build Relationships with your Children…
Posted May 16, 2011on:
Common questions we hear as adults:
- “What’s your relationship to her/him?”
- “How are you related?”
A relationship is far more than identifying yourself as a parent, daughter, son, sibling, friend or colleague. When we hear these words (actually labels) we automatically think of the responsibilities/obligations and rewards of each. We jump into the role of each. We know what these words mean because we are grownups. Children are learning.
We learned how to be a parent, daughter, son, sibling, friend or colleague through experiences.
Experiences that were rewarding as well as challenging.
Experiences that brought us joy or trouble.
Experiences that have their base in relationships. Children are learning.
Children are so new to the world. At every age and stage, they are learning how to become good in their roles; whatever they are. They are learning about the rules of each one. They are figuring out why some roles are easy and others are hard. Children are learning through relationships – Just like we did.
Relationships are tangible. You can see them, hear them, and feel them. They have their own particular language. Relationships can often define us. They are a lot of work and can be as strong as a mountain or as fragile as a flower.
Build strong relationships with your children – it will be the ground they stand on.
- Talk to your child. Tell them stories. Tell them who you. Tell them what they mean to you. Describe the world. Give them the language of joy as well as sorrow.
- Read with your child, at every age, on every day. Hold education valuable.
- Play. Really play. Go outside and run. Jump rope, play baseball, draw with chalk and throw water balloons. Sing songs and dance. Laugh often.
- Hold hands. Offer a shoulder to cry on. Take care of a boo-boo. Cuddle on the couch.
- Ask questions. Listen to the answers.
- Be responsible in your roles and require responsibility in theirs.
- Accept mistakes. You make them too.
- Invite your child to be connected to things that are bigger than they are. Volunteer.
“The best thing to spend on your children is your time.” Louise Hart
-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director