Legacy of an Adopted Child
Posted January 31, 2011on:
Many years ago I was given this lovely poem by a family who had just adopted a little girl. They had been given the poem by another family who had also adopted a child. Both families cherished the poem and I have kept it close.
Children come in all shapes and sizes. They run the range of quiet and focused to riotous and rambunctious. They have siblings and large extended families and they are “onlies”. Children have health and worries, they are highly gifted and they struggle. They are dreamers and lovers and they are sullen and cautious.
But they have one thing in common: the need to belong. Family first. Natural families, adopted families, foster families, extended families, single parent families, two parent families, nuclear families – whatever the label is, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that a child belongs to you and you to them.
If you were adopted as a child or you have adopted a child this poem will ring in your heart. Keep it close. But it is for all families with children.
Legacy of an Adopted Child.
Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call mother.
Two different lives shaped to make your one.
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.
The first gave you life and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love and the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent, the other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions; the other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears.
One gave you up – it was all that she could do.
The other prayed for a child and God led her straight to you.
And now you ask me through your tears,
The age-old questions through the years;
Heredity or environment – which are you the product of?
Neither, my darling, neither
Just two different kinds of love
“We came from mommy’s tummy. But Joseph is adopted, so he came from his mommy’s heart.” Dolly, The Family Circus
-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director