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Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

Yes, there are ways to take the drama out of holiday visits when you have children in tow.

 
1. Empty the car trunk.  Visits often include taking gifts and bringing gifts home.  Put children in their car seats and all of the extras in the trunk. Bring baby foods and needs and pajamas for little ones.  If you are bringing food, it is worth your while to pack it in sturdy boxes (even a cooler or large duffel bag) and put it in the trunk.  Food on the seat with children or on the floor doesn’t work.  If there is any possible way to bring food ahead of time, this is always your best bet.

2. Keep children as close to their routine as possible.  Loading little ones in a car to start a visit at 7:00 at night is asking for trouble.  If children fall asleep in the car, ask if you can tuck them into a quiet spot and let them sleep.  If little ones get cranky on a visit, take them home if possible.  If not, find as quiet a place and read a story or just offer a hug and your lap.

3. Pick your battles.  If green beans are served and your child doesn’t want them, it’s not the end of the world.  Keep some favorite foods in baggies in your purse.  What’s wrong with Cheerios or crackers?  There’s a reason families have a “kid’s table” (and it’s absolutely true that most adults would like to sit there!)

4. Just because you child-proof your home, don’t assume other people do.  Be very observant of your children.  Hard candies, nuts, cocktails and small game pieces are often prevalent at a holiday gathering.  The host and hostess are in charge of the party.  You are in charge of your children.

5. Be with your child. If your child whines that they want you to go to the bathroom with them or play with them or sit next to them, please do it.  A house full of busy adults with a lot of commotion can be stressful to young children.  You are their stabilizer. Also remember everyone wants to see a new baby, but this is very stressful to the baby. Please don’t pass babies around.

6. Set some ground rules ahead of time with older children and be part of their activities.
Older children like to show off and be loud at large gatherings.  They have learned very early that you don’t want to cause a scene, so they tend to try to get away with what they can.  Know where your children are and what they are doing – at every age.

7. Understand that young children will not gush over the sweater that Aunt Mary gives them or jump up and down when they open the gloves from Uncle Mark.  If they are in the spotlight, they will be wary – and you know they would rather have toys. Please say “thank you” from you and your child with a pleasant remark for each gift.  A thank you note, phone call or small token (a picture or photo) should be sent to each gift giver. Children should contribute to this.
 

8. Most children do not want to hug and kiss each adult at a large gathering. Please don’t start or end the visit with “Go over and give everyone a kiss hello / good-bye. “  This sets children up for stress.   You can give everyone a warm hello / good-by and say a heartfelt thank you from your family.

Lydia Maria Child wrote a happy, go-lucky song that has become a classic
“Over the river and through the woods to grandmother’s house we go….”
  I don’t think Ms. Child ever went for a holiday visit with real children.

-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

 

Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

M    Moment by precious moment

E    each one goes by so fast…

R    restful time and

R    rich conversation

Y    Yes, Christmas is here at last!

 

   Cherish these holiday moments

H    how fast they always go by!

R    Remembering Christmas’ rhythm, music & rhyme.

I    Into Christmas’ night, young children will drift

S    sleeping angels

   timeless treasure

M    more beautiful each year.

A    As joyful as the distant bells

   signaling Santa Clause is near!

Warmest wishes for a beautiful, joyful holiday.  Merry Christmas!

Kate

 

Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

Make a list and check it twice – not to find out if you’re naughty or nice, just to keep yourself in one piece at the holidays!!

I’m a big fan of writing lists.  They are a quick reminder of two things: what I need to do and what I would like to do

Need to do is at the top with a few like to dos at the end.  When I cross something off the top part of my list, I feel pretty good.  When I cross something off the bottom of my list, I feel even better!

The holidays are hurried.  I try to do so much (I would like an extra week, please!)  And sometimes I forget the little things that wind up being the big things.  How about you?     

So, posted on my ‘fridge right now:

  • Get scotch tape, packing tape and Christmas tree ornament hangers.
  • Buy “forever” stamps. Send out-of-town gifts now.
  • Spread rock salt on front stairs and porch. (We always go through the garage).
  • Order flowers to be delivered to Jaan.
  • Keep the dog off the couch for a week before Christmas (use the Dirt Devil each day on the couch).
  • Get kids their own car snowbrush and gloves.
  • Take ties and skirt to cleaners.
  • Meg’s secret Santa gift.
  • Specific dates of holiday events.         

This list is hardly exciting – it’s not even that interesting.  But it’s mine and it will keep me on task for the holiday.  It will give me great pleasure to cross items off this list and it will nag me each time I look at the things remaining.  I will get everything done.   I have to…    

                                 
At the holidays, make a list.  Keep it posted on your ‘fridge or in your purse.  Make a list each day or make a weekly list. Lists can be fun or serious.  They can consist of 2 things or 20. Make a Christmas list or a December list. Make a habit of writing lists. This is a proven organizational technique, a measure of focus and commitment.

But make sure the list belongs to you, whatever kind of list you choose. Make it personal, no one else has the responsibility to make things happen.  Only you. Then cross off your accomplishments – hurray!  But don’t worry about the left overs –I’ve had clean out the garage on one of my lists for over a year now…oh well, life goes on.

“I have created so many lists, I have to have a list of where all of my lists are!” J. Seinfeld

-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director

Everyone has ideas of what they would like to buy children for holiday gifts.  I would like to give you some ideas also – based on child development and skill abilities.  They are not a promotion of a product – but an idea of what children would like based on where children are developmentally.

Infants from birth to 1 yr. old: this is a very personal, very intimate stage of life and development.  During this year infants will grow at amazing rates.  Families are their significant attachment and will surround their little one with very personal experiences and environments.  I would always recommend finding out from a family what they would like for their baby.  (But, you can never go wrong with books or music.)

Babies (1-2 yr. olds): mobiles and music boxes, large, soft blocks, cars with people and animals to go with them.   Plastic cups, stackers, nesting toys, shape sorters, cone tubes, squeeze toys, rattles, keys on a ring, bell bracelets, peek-a-boo toys, soft balls of varying sizes, simple rhythm and music toys, soft and washable stuffed toys, baby dolls, puppets, soothing lullabies and fun dancing music toys.  Large-piece wooden (not interlocking) puzzles with knobs, material/plastic or cardboard books – many, many, many books.  Push and pull toys and adult assisted riding toys.  Babies like mirrors (non-breakable) and toys that make sound and music. They learn through their senses, consider textures and color!

Toddlers (2-3 yr. olds): “life-like” baby dolls and all of their props (cradle, high chair, cloths, blankets, stroller), kitchen set and props (dishes, fake food), dress up clothes (firefighter, police officer…), many size blocks and props (vehicles, animals, people…), large and sturdy construction vehicles and toys, trains, riding toys, push and pull toys, outdoor activity toys (ride-ons, balls, games, climbers and slides), toy tools and building set, large pegs and peg boards, large beads to string, sturdy wooden puzzles with interlocking parts, magnet toys, and young science equipment (consider small, household pets children can help with and learn from i.e. fish or hamster), lacing cards, color cubes, counting bears and simple lotto, bingo and matching games, shape sorters, large pattern blocks.  Crayons, chalk, paint, markers, glitter and glue in many different colors and paper.  All things creative! Clay, play-dough and “tools” to go with it. Books, books and more books.  Music and movement support. Toddlers are learning about how their bodies and muscles work and they are busy!

Preschoolers (3 & 4 yr. olds): all of the above and more in-depth, detailed and organized materials and games; mosaics, number & counting games, cards, early letter, number, word and shape books and games, sturdy dramatic play furniture and props, dress up and matching “tools “and props i.e. dr. kit, badges, magnifying glasses, nets, aprons…; smaller people, animals, vehicles and activity centers, challenging outdoor games and equipment, all arts & crafts materials, baby dolls and stuffed animals.  Every kind of book, interlocking & beginning jig-saw puzzles, music and rhythm instruments.

But remember…“The greatest gift you can give to another person is yourself” M. Robinson

-Kate Dust, EduKids Education Director


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